Are you dreaming of a bigger, bolder and more fulfilling life, but have no idea what that looks like? This is one of the most common complaints I hear from moms who have spent years focusing on everyone but themselves. If you want more for your life, you have to spend the time figuring out what you want that “more” to be.
“One of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided what they want.”
Jack Canfield, The Success Principles
We tend to make the process of planning our future more complicated than it needs to be. We look outside of ourselves for the answer. We put pressure on ourselves to find the perfect path. We stay stuck in confusion and overwhelm.
Dreaming up your ideal future doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are 3 simple steps to get you started.
Step #1 Create a list of 30 things you want to be, to do, or to have before you die.
Let this be fun. Don’t put pressure on yourself to find the perfect answer. It’s just a brainstorm of possibilities.
Don’t allow yourself to say, “I don’t know”. This is a dead-end thought that will shut down your creative thinking process.
Give yourself time. Write down whatever comes to mind and then come back to the list whenever a new idea pops up. Keep the list somewhere visible as a reminder to keep thinking about ideas for your future.
Step #2 Focus on what you do know.
We humans love to focus on what we don’t have or don’t know. Our thoughts give us the results in our lives, so as long as you’re focusing on how you don’t know what you want, you will continue to not know.
Focus on the things you do know. How do you want to feel as your future self? What kind of person do you want to be? How much free time would you like to have? What type of climate would you like to live in? What would you like to do more of?
Don’t get stuck in the details of the how. Stay focused on the things you do know. Keep adding to your list. You will notice that as you add things each day, you will uncover more and more ideas. Don’t worry if these things are possible. Stay in brainstorming mode and allow yourself to dream.
Step #3 Pick one small thing and get started.
Our brains are wired to protect us, so we tend to think we must have everything figured out before we take action. We want to stay in thinking and planning mode until we come up with the perfect plan. I want you to resist this urge and just pick one small thing you want to achieve. Don’t worry about how it contributes to the bigger picture.
The idea is to act from your heart-centered values, desires and priorities. The more you practice this skill, the clearer your vision for your future will become. You don’t have to know exactly what you want for yourself 10 years from now. Trust that as long as you are taking action from your heart, it will always lead you in the right direction.
But what if you’re finding it difficult to even come up with ONE dream on your heart – that’s okay mama.
I’ve got you. Let’s chat.
Book a free 30-minute session with me to uncover what thoughts are holding you back, and get started on creating the future of your dreams.
Get your spark back this week, I’m here to help.
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