Life is 50/50
There is a common misconception that life coaching is all about helping people create a positive mindset. Yes, a large portion of what we do in life coaching involves mindset work, but we are not pushing positive thoughts only. Part of the human experience is that life is 50/50 and will always have both positive and negative emotions. I believe that fighting this truth is an uphill battle that will only leave you defeated and exhausted.
Positivity has its place, but the bulk of the work I do with clients is around creating an intentional mindset. All emotions are driven by our thoughts. If we can learn to be intentional with our thoughts, then we can purposely choose how we want to feel at any given moment. Of course, we can choose to feel more happiness, excitement and inspiration, but the goal is not to feel this way all the time.
How do you want to feel?
If you have been spending your life chasing the ultimate happiness, I want you to ponder this: do you really want your life to be happy all the time? When someone dies, do you want to feel happy about it? How do you want to feel about your mom being diagnosed with cancer? What about rape or child molestation? I am guessing the answer is not happy.
The beauty of creating an intentional mindset is that you get to choose the emotions that serve you in each moment. Imagine your child breaks their leg on the monkey bars. The unmanaged mind may go straight into panic, worry or fear. Those emotions are not likely to help you or the child. On the flip side, would it serve you to feel happy? Probably not. Instead, you may want to feel calm or focused, so you can think clearly, spring into action and be able to reassure your child.
Embrace the Negative, Increase the Positive
I love to help moms create more joy and happiness in their lives, but I also love to help them manage their negative emotions. The negative side is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to run your life. How freeing would it be to be able to handle any emotion? To stop running away, resisting, or numbing yourself from the bad feelings?
We may never get to a place where we have control over our emotions 100% of the time, but that’s ok. Perfection is never the aim. Book a complimentary 30-minute life coaching session with me and I will teach how to think and feel intentionally, so you can better manage the negative and create more happiness, excitement and inspiration.
You can book your free session here: https://schedulelindsayshortcoaching.as.me/minisession
