You Are Your Own Worst Critic
What if I called you a stupid, fat and lazy mom who will never do anything of value in life? You would probably hate me, right? Then why are you saying terrible things like that to yourself? Bullies can be downright mean, but the biggest bully of all is often your inner voice.
When you try to lose weight, who tells you it’s impossible and that you’ll never be the weight you want? You! When you dream of success, who doubts that you’ll be able to get there? You! Who tells you over and over that you don’t have any passions, that you aren’t providing any value in the world, or that you’ll never have your sh*t together? Again – you!
I’m here to tell you that your inner voice is a liar. These things aren’t true. They may feel very real to you, but they are just thoughts. Want the best news? You get to decide what you think about yourself. No matter what’s happened in your past, what you see in the mirror, or what you’ve accomplished so far, you get to decide who you are.
Awareness is Everything
The first step to this process is always awareness. What thoughts are you currently thinking about yourself? Often it is so automatic that you don’t even notice it’s happening. I challenge you to sit down for 10 minutes and just write all the thoughts in your head. No filtering. No holding back. You may be shocked to see the amount of negativity down on that sheet of paper.
Here’s the secret to life: our thoughts create our emotions, and our emotions drive our actions. If you’re thinking terrible things about yourself, you’re naturally going to feel pretty crappy. Guess what’s not going to happen when you feel this way? You’re not going to put yourself out there or show up in your life in the way you would like. You’re going to hide behind your limiting beliefs and block yourself from your true potential. In a nutshell, you’ll never grow into the person you want to be if you keep metaphorically punching yourself in the face!
